Responding to Grief
How do we respond to someone who has recently lost a loved one. You may find yourself not knowing what to say, avoiding the person, letting them know you are sorry for their loss. There are many ways that people respond. Offering comfort, a listening ear, is always appreciated; however, if you offer comfort by sitting with someone, don't expect them to talk, they may just want you to sit with them, be there; many words are heard in silence. Knowing that someone is there is needed is one of the greatest gifts you can give someone who is grieving. It's about them and their needs.
Sometimes people avoid those who are grieving because the do not know what do say or do. They don't want to ask how you are doing because they feel uncomfortable. Again, its not about you. Offer someone a few minutes of your time to listen, allow the person grieving respect by letting them say how they feel. Do not make assumptions; a simple act of kindness can provide much comfort. It's not easy being a griever as it never goes away.
When responding to grief, respond with kindness; share a smile, a few minutes of your time, let them know that you are there for them should they need to seek you out. In a time where we are facing so much loss, grievers are unfortunately, abundant. Don't run from them, sit with them. ~~ Cammie